A relaxed mum is important but sometimes that seems impossible. Can you give yourself ten minutes for you? Breathe in slowly and let the air help your belly expand. Hold the breath as long as possible and then exhale slowly and hold before your next inhale. Try all the following ideas on yourself first and just notice that your body will relax.
Consider what type of birth did you bub have? Babies born by caesarean section do not have the natural turning down of skin sensors which occurs during normal delivery. These bubs often grow up to be a little more sensitive than others and easily rubbed up the wrong way.
What to do…. using both hands gently apply pressure from the top of the head and move to the toes… you are helping to deactivate the skin sensors so that your infant is not overwhelmed by all the sensory stimulation we are bombarded with. You are helping your infant to filter the information coming into the Central Nervous System.
Research has shown that caesar delivered bubs miss out on the starter good bacteria. In recognition of this face the market now abounds with a broad selection of probiotics for brand new bubs and children. Just today the health store Byron Bay Detox sent an update on a children’s probiotic Syntol Kids.
I am attaching the QR Code if you would like to check it out.
Unhappy babies are telling you something is not right. A crying baby ends up in stress mode and there is an autonomic response to stress. The skull armours down to protect the brain, the jaw tightens and the muscles in the feet and legs are getting ready for flight or fight.
What to do …. gently stroke the top of your baby’s head, move from the centre of the head out to the ears, ever so gently to let the body know it is safe. . …… starting in front of the ears gently rub up and over the top of the ear and down to the base of the skull. This is working with the Triple Warmer Meridian and sending the message that you are ok. . ……. don’t forget the feet – rub from the web of each toe onto the top of the foot, do this gently for each toe. Rub under the foot and stroke down the calves from the back of the knee to the ankle.
Holding acupuncture reflex points may help to calm your baby’s energetic system . Hold one hand on your baby’s forehead and with a finger from the other hand gently hold the reflex point above the lip for a minute or so and then do this holding the reflex point just below the bottom lip.
Essential Oils have become popular due to their beneficial qualities of antibacterial and antiviral and stress reducing. Find a pure essential oil with the qualities you want and use a few drops in water and spray in the room
Pure Clean Water – puts less stress on your baby’s detoxification process.
Tips on How to have a happy baby.
Look at the dancing lady – which way is she turning?
As your brain switches from left hemisphere to right hemisphere she changes direction.
Try this with a friend ….. and notice when you see the same thing or the opposite.
We all have our own point of view and now you can see why. Sometimes we do not operate from the same hemisphere. Another reason to be easy on yourself and others.
We all have our formative conditioning that sets up our belief patterns. Some belief patterns are constructive and add quality and harmony to our lives enabling us to enjoy the opportunities that are in front of us.
We also have limiting beliefs which LIMIT are experience and expression of our self. You know the ones that you picked up in the formative first 7 years when care givers were doing the best they could …. trying to keep your safe, trying to put their values and limitations on you.
In a Kinesiology session a 17 year old boy in his last year of school presented with a stress around school and examines. The balance session identified a stress at 12 months old… not good enough around walking. Mum and Dad were encouraging him to walk and his sensitive soul picked up on not doing things to his best and wow that was how he was seeing life at 17. He was able to move the energetic block around doing his best and felt calmer and less anxious about his final year at school.
How to manage a childs’ anger
The first seven years of our life is the formation time of our survival behaviours which we take into our adult years.
These are learned behaviours and belief patterns which should give you the strength confidence and resilience to enjoy and prosper in life and relationships.
Sometimes our first seven years do not provide the nurturing we as individuals need, we suppress our emotions to survive and instead of feeling confident we lack confidence and self esteem, we react to situations rather than respond, and we sense the lack in our lives and don’t feel that sense of happiness to radiate our true being.
Anger is a reactive behaviour and has been described as unresolved grief being directed outwards. In an angry state, the brain locks into survival mode operating from the back left lobe with reduced blood flow to the frontal thinking cortex and increased adrenaline. The hemispheres of the brain are not integrated in a time of stress.
By interrupting the outburst the brain stops its neural track. Repeated enough times, the neural track is not the go to reaction and your child develops more control over emotions.
So try this next time there is an outburst…. pick the child and move to another place with other things to look at and think about.
Or start pulling the invisible anger out with your hands … ask where it is and describe how you are pulling the anger out. Let the child blow it away .
When not as angry Talk about why the anger and where in the body the anger is.Support your child by holding the forehead and back of head and encourage good breathing with the stomach expanding on the in breath… improving blood flow and oxygen.
Apply pressure to the pad part of the palm below the thumb to reduce adrenaline.
With an integrated brain and reduced adrenaline your child is able to make a conscious choice about behaviour. William Glasser developed Choice Therapy which beautifully explains the interaction between wants and needs and behaviour.
Is my angry child on the Autistic Spectrum?
As parents you may be called upon to trust your intuition when you sense that something more is effecting your child’s emotional behaviour. CEASE Therapy provides support and guidance to help parents of children who have autism.
Soothing your Small Intestine
Your child’s grumpiness may be a symptom of an unhappy small intestine which is allowing larger food molecules to hit the blood stream. This contributes to a number of inflammatory responses and toxin build up in the body. Inflammatory brain response resulting in inflammatory behaviour. Then you are pulling your hair out….and your child is really asking you for help.
Get rid of wheat …. try buckwheat, amaranth and quinoa available in your supermarket.
Probiotics …..give the good bacteria a chance to get rid of toxins – take just before bed.
Please check with your naturopath or Doctor about vitamin B levels in particular B12. Low B12 contributes to a wide variety of diseases and syndromes. In fact many conditions are really an undiagnosed B12 deficiency.
Natural products – rethink your toothpaste and coax the kids to gargle with himalayan sea salt, use dental floss and brush with a paste of sodium bicarbonate. Exercise your tongue by moving it in and around your teeth and gums. Exercising your tongue in the way it was designed to work also improves your facial tone.
Make bathtime a soak in magnesium chloride or epsom salts (magnesium sulphate as magnesium is a great pain reliever! Some people use magnesium in place of paracetemol.
Milk – we could drink it until the cows come home but how congested so we get? Goats milk, rice milk could be your replacement. Try plain yoghurt with a little water on quinoa porridge.
Check this site for the very soothing, intestinal nurturing chicken and pumpkin soup.
Chia seeds are a great anti-inflammatory, soak and add a green vege powder for a quick me up. If you are a busy mum, have this drink daily to help keep your energy levels up.
Use Xylitol instead of sugar and it soothes the intestinal walls and is good for your gums.
Find what works for you and start with the changes that suit you. Give yourself some time and make more changes
Zinc is an essential mineral for growth and development. A deficiency in zinc can effect your energy levels and the uptake of other essential minerals resulting in compromised health and healing.
Interestingly there are high levels of zinc in the hippocampus which is involved in learning so low levels of zinc may effect your learning and memory. Low levels of iron may also impact on your memory and ability to concentrate and handle everyday stress. Iron as in hemoglobin is the carrier of oxygen for our cells. It is important to have optimum levels of oxygen.
The case study below highlights the importance of zinc and iron.
Association of Zinc Deficiency with Iron Deficiency Anemia and its Symptoms: Results from a Case-control Study press shift and click on this link for the complete article.
Zinc is a mineral that is essential for many of the body’s normal functions and systems, including the immune system, wound healing, blood clotting, thyroid function, and the senses of taste and smell.
Iron levels down …….could be the result of a couple of different overlooked issues.
When your red blood cells are out of balance life giving oxygen is not being distributed as efficiently as needed; 4 molecules of oxygen bind with one red blood cell.
When you have an infection, bacteria etc you may experience a fever as your body’s immune system sets about to remove the infection.
One of the reasons for the temperature is to hold on to the iron in your body so that the bacteria and viruses are not able to use it.
Bacteria and viruses require iron.
If your iron levels are low could your body be intentionally keeping levels down to help get rid of the bacteria and viruses.
By increasing the number of good bacteria in your body you may signal to the body that it is safe to increase the iron levels in the blood and that the iron won’t be taken by the bacteria and viruses.
Pyphoria is a very commonly overlooked condition which will make it more difficult to get the iron levels up.
The enteric nervous system – the gut really does need to be working well to help with anemia – so check out the foods that actually stress your body and then give yourself a break from them to allow healing of the gut.
Anemia is a condition which should be taken seriously.
For more information https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/anaemia
The family is the stamping ground for cooperation and social skills. But what if you are the youngest in the family and the big brothers or sisters are allowed to do things that you are not allowed to?
Actually it is more of a safety issue with you being 2 or 3, whilst the elder kids in the family are double or triple your age.
When you are 3 and wanting to show the world that you are independent and capable and can and want to do what your 8 year old sister is doing. However your care givers have a different perspective and want to keep you safe so you can’t join in.
It is certainly confusing the mind of a young child.
From this you may develop a belief habit of I’m not good at anything or that I am always excluded. You then take this belief into your adult life and your subconscious mind keeps the belief constantly being reinforced. A childhood message becomes your adult limiting belief.
Ways to deconstruct the limiting beliefs. Brain Integration work used in Kinesiology to change the belief pattern into a more constructive message will have a profound effect on your life.
Family management – as a parent a strategy to help the younger children feel more of an equal is to mark different ages with different experiences. Eg have a three year old climbing tree and then choose another for when you are 5. How about a tandem parachute jump at 15 years and the choice for another jump the next year? Your eldest at 15 will appear a lot older than your youngest at 15. Having age related milestones reminds parents of the developmental progress all the children go through.
More information on sibling rivalry